When we have built stability underneath us and it feels as if we can move again from the position we have been in for at least 5 years, we start to develop an understanding and a perspective of where other people are at. We begin to recognise that people are excelling in areas, lacking in others, and finally we realise those who are stuck. But despite being in their shoes once and realising their problems, we start to confuse ourselves, how can we help these people? No one helped us and we recovered. And, while we want to help these people, how can we? Are words enough? What are the questions we ask them to ask themselves? And can we? Are we really that stable? That age old question keeps popping up, should we run before we can walk?
Walking down the street, there are some who expel an exuberance of performance and happiness. But what we really see is a front. I know, because I believe I give that signal. But inside I’m still really a mess. The mind is not as chaotic as it once were but still would look like a disorganised office if were in a real form. My mind lays everywhere and nowhere all at once. It expands vast knowledge and still stumbles over the smallest of hurdles. My mind runs but still hasn’t ever learned to walk, often looked upon as a final opinion and deciding eye I have to wonder, in this state can it really be that bad?
But how can help those who are stuck? How do get them moving again, and, is that for anyone else but themselves to do? When people are crying out for help and have it plastered all around them how do we step in and get them to step out? The first step, on this long walk is to walk. Not to run, because to rush recovery only extends it. No recovery can be rushed, not even economic recovery but that is a lesson that the government will learn one day not too soon. Letting a problem out can be the best remedy, a problem shared isn’t a problem halved, but divided by a number far greater than 2. It is the beginning of the end of every problem. And despite this being the difficult part, it is the mountain that will rush all recovery. But, cautions do arise, we must be very careful with those who we inform because even the nicest people may use knowledge of your problem to themselves excel. It is something difficult to realise, but trust is an investment of mental currency. And you wouldn’t gamble a thousand out of your wallet so why gamble it out of your mouth.
But then we question how far do we help? Do we go all the way or does that provide a false sense of security and inevitably lead to your presence being accustomed to? Sometimes its best to take a step back, because when they learn to walk and run, we let them ride alone. Stabilisers do help but even they must be removed. Independence will return and self-development will be reignited. Trust and beliefs are redeveloped and colour returns to the trees, and the world. But while were watching the other person develop and take a stand, we must beware. Because the last thing we need is to be sitting still on the road, and before we know it we’re stuck again and who knows if anyone’s coming back for us. So make sure the colour is there before we get in too deep, because otherwise the sight may disappear altogether.
Selfishness is something that is frowned upon, but ultimately we must all do it to survive. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t help those in need, because we should, but what I’m saying is that we shouldn’t get ourselves so involved that we start developing the same problems. We all have issues and we can’t have a day where there are none because those days are called early teens, and them days are long gone. We shouldn’t try and escape but instead deal with them as they come; it’s efficient and sensible. But we never have enough to solve them all so messy offices are not uncommon. But this is a new year, a new opportunity and a new energy over us we can develop a new stability. But stability is something only we can know however don’t underestimate it, because in moment a bolt can break, and you can then neither walk nor run.
Happy New Year!
